Michael
Kinsley’s Old Age: A Beginner’s Guide
isn’t exactly a guidebook to “life’s last chapter,” as the author promises. The
book does talk quite a bit about Parkinson’s disease, even though Kinsley
assures us that it isn’t really about Parkinson’s disease, because that’s been
Kinsley’s diagnosis for the last 23 years. And his comments about going through
“deep brain stimulation,” a surgical technique that can be very helpful to
people with Parkinson’s, as well as his discussion of accepting
limitations—giving up driving, realizing you’re not going to be promoted—are
illuminating. His suggestion that the baby boomers redeem themselves for
posterity by erasing the national debt is whacky. But he does deal with
something tremendously important, and that is coming up with an immortality
project.
I first
learned about immortality projects when I read Ernest Becker’s The Denial of Death, which was published
in 1973. It had such a profound effect on me that I called my book about aging The Denial of Aging in homage to his. Becker’s
point, at least as I remember it, was that it is the awareness of our
mortality, more than anything else, that distinguishes us from other mammals.
Now I don’t know if it’s really true that apes are totally oblivious to the
prospect of death. But regardless of whether we are unique in this respect, I
do think it’s fair to say that our recognition of our finitude profoundly
shapes our existence. Some moral philosophers have even suggested that the
prospect of further life extension is bad for us as it would induce a kind of
ethical laziness—we would keep on putting off doing good because we figured
we’d have plenty of time later. That may be a bit of an exaggeration, but I
think there’s truth to the claim that mortality is a great motivator. I don’t
think it’s necessary to invoke heaven and hell, some kind of post-mortem day of
judgment, to induce people to lead a good life. It’s sufficient to realize that
our time on earth is limited: if we want to make something of our lives, we
better go ahead and do so. And built into the fabric of our being is a desire
to live on after our death, to be remembered, and in that way, to triumph over
our mortality. Which is where immortality projects come in.
What
Kinsley’s book is about is finding an immortality project. He recommends that
the baby boomers undertake a joint project with all the other baby boomers
(eradicating the debt), which is more daunting and, in my view, less likely to
succeed than embarking on an individual project. But Kinsley’s point is that
being diagnosed with a chronic, progressive (and I would add, ultimately fatal)
disease brought home to him the recognition that he had better get started. It
made him think about what was really important to him—was it material possessions?
Was it fame? Or was it something more durable?
Kinsley is telling us is that we need to get cracking. We better define our
immortality project, our legacy, and start working on it. For Kinsley, it was
the diagnosis of a serious disease that helped him figure out that he ought to
have such a project. But for most people, that’s a little late. The real
message of his book is not to wait. Don’t wait until you already know what
disease is going to kill you. Don’t wait until you have dementia or widely
metastatic cancer or advanced heart disease. We’re human: we are mortal and we
know it. We should all be working on our legacy for much of our lives, where “legacy”
may simply mean being the best person we possibly can be.